Monday, July 28, 2014

Love & Marriage.

Love is an Action. Within our marriage, I found quickly that Love was so much more action than emotion. I knew going into our marriage and Travis and i talked about how, I live to be there for him, he lives to be there for me. We have God in the center, seeking his will. I think of his needs, He thinks of mine, and that's how our marriage will function. Will we hit bumps in the road, of course. Will we have disagreements? of course. Will we always remember to seek God in the disagreements? We better. While I have an overwhelming Love for him and appreciation.. Actions bring forth the stirring of that Love and actions of love show him that appreciation just like with how we serve God.

 Our message at church last night was so good and hit that nail on the head so to speak.
Over the past few years, divorce has reared it's ugly, unnatural head in some of the lives around me and the conviction that comes over me when I hear loved ones have made that choice is strong and ground shaking. breaks my heart for them.

 The definition of love given through the Reformers unanimous program is as follows:

Love is defined as the willing sacrificial giving of oneself for the benefit of others without thought of return.

When I hear someone say they aren't in Love anymore, that the feeling of Love isn't there, that is saying, "He" or "I" or "We" have stopped showing Love within our actions. It says, one or the other or both, are not willing to sacrifice for the vow they made to God and to the one they did Love and should Love. When we Love someone, we have to act like it. Sin can get in the way of that. Solution from what I read in the Bible is to remove the sin, forgive the sin, and get back to God.

It's scary. In the Bible when God's children went against his laws and his will for their life, punishment was usually brought on to their generations. Their children.  Their babies were affected negatively by their sin. I can see and witness what happens to kids just living through divorce. That seems like punishment enough. Some say they don't feel staying together for the children is right. God doesn't want you to stay together just for your children.  He wants you to stay together for him.  From what I have read in the Bible, you must take God seriously. Yes, he is Loving and Forgiving but we are to not grieve the Holy Spirit and He chastises those he loves and while someone may think, "I would rather take the punishment than to be unhappy" (by the way, through Faith God can and will bring satisfaction to your life though trials and tribulation may absolutely be part of it).  You have no idea what results from knowingly choosing to go against God. drawing near to God helps you remember to keep that Faith. notice how when our children do something wrong it's usually in another room away from us? People put that space between themselves and God when doing wrong.  When I am out with my kids, I have them keep within sight in most cases because they do way less wrongs when I am within sight. We need to take that consideration with God. Keeping ourselves within his sight. Don't leave the room where it is easier to do wrong.   Divorce is a clear result of selfishness. It's a lack of sacrifice. It's avoidable. If both parties are where they should be with God, it wouldnt be an option. When I hear someone say Divorce is on the horizon, it's as if they are saying they are giving up on Faith in God. Divorce is a lack of Faith in God.  I have seen where a couple wasn't yoked up to God and one spouse tried and it seemed too late to reach the other person. Those married must take heed. Never allow your relationship to get out of God's hands. And if you see your marriage getting out of God's hands, Do everything you can to get you and your spouse together under the mercy of the Lord. You do not want to live out of God's will. yes, he can bring good from bads but to knowingly go against him. what Blessing can be expected? God can save your marriage at any state it is in. Just have to let God in. I am not trying to come across in a negative light here. my conviction is to say, "It is never too late to Let God take control of your life and your marriage. he can do anything. He can fix anything. He is the Perfect one to fix us. He is the voice of Truth. he looks to bring Glory out of the trials and tribulations sins brings us to. He gets blame for so many of our wrongs then isn't even given the opportunity to bring his glory out of our situations. 

Seen this quote yesterday: "More marriages would succeed if those who said "I DO" actually Did."  

The Love of a marriage is one of the closest examples of Christ's Sacrifice for his body of believers. He is the Bride of the church. He sacrifices for his believers. We should sacrifice some things for him. Including going through some hard times while we get back where we should.

Are you mad at God? Did he do this to you? Are you mad at God because of your spouse?  God didnt go anywhere. He never changed. He consistently stands with his hands stretched out to reach us. I have heard it said, we are like fish on a line, he  pulls gently at us trying to get us as close to him as we allow. If you are getting beat in the rapids, swim toward him! Don't break the line. He wants you! He does not bring harm your way. Sin does. Maybe your spouses sin brought you to a point of unhappiness. God gave free will to All of us and our sins affect each other at times. Just as the sin of divorce will affect your loved ones. Getting angry at God for free will in this world,  how can you justify that anger? Don't let Satan cloud your thoughts. Be mad at Satan for getting to you, for getting to your spouse. Be mad at Sin, be mad at the Fall of Man. God is blameless.  Retaliate against the sinful world by not falling over anymore of those stumbling blocks. let your vengeance be turning your back on the sins of the world and getting into prayer, bible study, church, Get back to God. he is exactly where You left Him. He never left you. He never leaves us. He will never leave us. He sacrificed for us. His actions show his Deep Love for us. Allow your actions to show your Love for him.  Make that willing sacrificial giving of  yourself  for the benefit of your spouse without thought of return. Love them. Love is An Action. Put it to action.

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Do You Love him?

I remember that day the question went through my mind. It had tried to enter my mind before a couple of times but I would switch thoughts quickly, however not this time. No, this time, I let it in. It rolled out laying across my heart covering it, "Do you Love him more?" God had put that question there. I had it cross my mind when Travis and I were dating. "Do you Love..." I knew what the question was and I couldn't not Love Travis any less was what I settled on. Of course I Love God. God wants to be #1 so he is so now let's go watch tv or call a friend about dinner..
Years later, the question is back. Travis and I had been married a few years. We were praying about starting a family. Praying my health issues would resolve so that we could start a family. I am washing dishes and praying God keeps Travis safe at work (a daily prayer). The question presents itself and I face it.

 I acknowledge it.

 I don't answer though because I didn't want to have to say No. I just wasn't sure I was being completely honest if I said yes. This time I didn't feel like the last time he asked. I wanted to love him more than anyone Just as I Loved him more than anything but I felt like it was a different Love you can't categorize with other people. I stood in silence disappointed with myself. Ashamed before the Lord. It isn't a different category. I was going to have to Love him More than Anyone.

 More than my husband. 

It seems surprising to me now that I had struggled to Love God the Most.

 And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.

What I didn't know and what God has revealed to me since I was in that place, is that it was never a situation where by loving God the most, it made my Love for people any less. It was actually the exact opposite. By Loving God Whole heartily, I have So much more Love for Everyone. So much more Love for my husband. I Love God more than anything and anyone. It is such a deep love rooted within my Soul brought forth by him and it is beautiful.

 Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world.

 A lot of things went into play while we were going through difficulties trying to get pregnant and I thank God for those difficulties. It was during that long suffering (at least what we considered long suffering at the time), we got within God's grasp whole heartily. It's when our Faith Stood up and wedged itself up against him. By the time we were allowed to conceive, I knew I would Love God 1st and foremost for my husband and my future child's sake.
Today, I am so thankful I Love him Most and the burden for others to ask themselves,
 "Do I love him most?" swells up inside of me. Do you love him more than yourself? More than your husband? Your children?
Does it seem wrong to allow yourself to Love him the absolute most? If it seems wrong, I Pray that you will pray God will examine you and let you know if you are close enough & If everything is lined up in the order he sees fit because the Blessing that comes with Loving God more, the blessing of having a Spouse Loving God More. We all need that. We don't only need to Love God more than the world and the things of the World but we need to love him above all our thoughts and desires-and Loved ones. I cannot Thank God enough for having a Husband who loves God more Than he loves me. I find Blessed assurance in that. I find a strong sense of strength and joy in our marriage because of that.

You do not want to miss out on the Blessing Of really putting God first. And If you are in the midst of running from God & his will for your life, You will eventually wish so badly you had let him catch you. He is So ready to use you. So ready to Be loved by you so that you can feel the overwhelming Love he has toward you.

Do You Love him?
Do you Love him More?
Do you Love him Most?


Where are you?

So there you sat heartbroken, so lost and frustrated. You were tired. You were over feeling like this. You tried everything you knew to do. Everything you were comfortable enough to do. Such heavy negative emotions, sad, angry, just so broken. You cried out to God, 'Where are you?!'...and he in return, asked you the very same question.....Do you not know he is jealous for you? he wants all of you. You are 1st on his list. Wouldn't you think he wants to be 1st on your list?  Before everything. Before everyone else. He needs you to lean in close so you can hear him. This is going to require leaving your place and going to him, let him communicate through his word. You are going to have to sacrifice. Never more than what he has sacrificed for you. You may have to be long suffering. Never as long suffering as he has been with you. You will have to be selfless, but never as selfless as he has been with you. What he could do with us and for us if only we would let him. Can you just picture it. Up there in the heavens, the angels seeing the spiritual battle going on, witnessing us getting beat by our own stubbornness and selfishness. Watching us get caught up in the world and  sins of the world followed by seeing us shocked the sins of the world caught us. I can picture an angel turning to God and asking him why do you put up with them acting like this? Aren't you frustrated? They want to do it their own way instead of letting you guide them through the very life you gave them?! They blame you for every bad and evil thing in that sinful world when really you are what can and has delivered them from the transgressions and they have the audacity to Cry out asking where you are when they are too busy living for themselves, throwing out prayer requests when convenient, wanting their requests to be made known when they do not live to follow your requests! They don't want to give up their time to allow you to communicate to them through your word. They don't want to sacrifice anything. They harden their hearts. And when you don't hurry and make things comfortable for them immediately, they turn their back on you. And you still Love them...question friends, How loved do you suppose God feels by you? Maybe he is crying out-where are you?

Monday, February 10, 2014

Monday, November 25, 2013

Today is Day 1 of Officially Beginning the Moving Process..Ready.Set.Pray....and....GO!   :)





Saturday, November 23, 2013

Studying, Learning, Growing, And Praying to be able to share and encourage those around me through God's word. I am really excited. I have had a desire growing within me to get out of the Lord's way and allow him to use me to reach others. I hope he will do so. I am not worthy but I know he can perform any task So hopefully I can decrease and allow him and his glory to just shine through. Please pray for me to become all that I can through Christ. :)

Friday, April 27, 2012

Baby Hangers..who knew?!

I am seriously posting a tip on how I hang up mine & Travis's pants. lol. I have a "hang up" (no pun intended) when it comes to hanging up pants. I want them hung up however I don't like the hangers that you can place 4 to 5 pairs on. I also don't like my hangers getting unbalanced & sticking out all jacked up. It turns out baby hangers are perfect for hanging our pants on. The closet looks so organized with them perfectly balanced on the hangers. So, if the simplest little things make you as happy as they do me, this tip is for you. Baby hangers all.the.way.


Sunday, April 15, 2012

Easy Peasy

The.Best.Crock.Pot.Chicken.  -So Tender

Broccoli & Cauliflower Au Gratin- Also a big hit with the children =)

Zuccini Bread- Perfect dessert for a healthy lifestyle. Moist and sweet enough.

Everything is easy to make, tastes yummy AND- the Zuccini bread doesn't call for any sugar which is a rarity.

Oh, Also, PLEASE check out this Site. 2 of the recipes came from there. Lisa has done her research and I am just loving all the information she has to offer. Getting educated on what you are eating and feeding your family is SO important. Get educated so you can keep your family safe and healthy. Food has been altered So much in the past decade. It really is scary what is allowed in food-and what is allowed to be called "Food". I can promise you, if you took the real food challenge, you would see a big difference in how you feel and also in how you look. Headaches, Most cancers, Acne, Alzheimers, ADD, ADHD, Obesity, etc... SHOULD NOT be happening and without any doubt, I can assure you it is from what we consume, So get educated on what you are consuming and make it a priority. It is so important.

Monday, September 12, 2011

The To Do List



I Need To:
 
Pray More.
Listen For God More.
Run More.
Leave the House in "Toy Tornado Mode" long enough to play with the kids for a few hours Every Day.
Make my Grocery list & Meal Plan the day before shopping so I am not distracted or in a hurry.
Stop misplacing things. Especially the Hubby's Stuff.
Give God More Glory.
Use my time More Wisely.
Put my keys on the key holder thingy.
Stop Fantasizing  Every Day about tossing my phone out of the car window.
Give my husband more back massages.
Focus more on work when I am there. Don't get distracted.
Take a step back from certain situations.
Talk less, So Much Less.
Read the Bible Every Day & Remember All The Answers To All The Questions Are In That Book.
Then Put Those Answers into Action.
 

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Our Family Treat Saves the Day...Again

I have been scouting out blogs for Recipe Ideas. Cooking every meal every day causes you to run out of ideas rather quickly. I was remembering how hubby Loves Zuppa Toscana soup from Olive Garden so for Fathers Day, I decided I wanted to try to make it. I checked out one of my favorite blogs because I had a feeling due to their Love for Italian food ( and because they have endless selections of awesome recipes), they just may have a recipe and sure enough, as usual, they didnt let me down. It tastes Exactly like Olive Garden. I am thrilled! If you want to impress any Olive Garden Lovers, start with this recipe. I was surprised of how simple it was to throw together.



OUR FAMILY TREAT

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.



- Henry Ford



Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Polka Dots and Taboggons

I don't usually get in on any daily blog action like "Wordless Wednesdays" and I especially  don't get in on fashion blogs because I don't have a bit of style going for me but over at Sherry's Blog, I read that it is polka dot day over at EverybodyEverywear and I noticed that Little Bit was coincidentally prepared to be in on it as you can see:

  She has been in a trance with her pants...



Little Man apparently takes after his momma when it comes to style as you can see in the attire he picked out the other morning to wear while watching "Imagination Movers"....

I'm just happy he coordinated his colors ;)

Monday, March 7, 2011

Princess Naomi & The Magic Tea Set

For my niece at Christmas, my mom and I came up with what we thought was a sweet idea. She had gotten Naomi a real tea set and I wrote her a short story starring her and her magic tea set. I was able to described the tea set she got in the story and had it made into an actual book. I made the characters in the book be the kids in the family. Lauren was a doll, and Isaac and Carter were two very hyper little bunnies. My mom was in it as well (as the "fairy-grandmother'). She received the book, the Tea Set, and the character's in the book. I had a ball with it. I probably liked it more than she did to be honest. If you get bored and want to check it out, you can do so HERE.